Are you ready for a makeover?

In psychological self-improvement, the best way to remove fear is to understand that life is always in the cycle of ups and downs. No one is permanently up or permanently down. Remember that no one can avoid these ups and downs, even the wealthiest people in the world.

What we should do about these downs is to learn from it and
not to avoid it. Problems affect us every day. These problems bring us misery
due to the fact that we have feelings. We should never lose hope in figuring
out solutions to these problems. All we need is to learn how to overcome it and
not to be overcome.

Psychologists say that we should always be careful in our
decisions concerning our problems. Learning from mistakes helps us in preparing
ourselves for psychological improvement.

Another belief says that what we encounter in our lives
today is our preparation for other things that may come in our lives. To
understand what may happen to us in the future, we must learn from the present.

With all that, it is also true that the unexpected can
happen anytime. However, you should keep in mind that it’s not always for the
worse and consequently, you must never let go of a chance, because you are
afraid to take the risk. Remember that, from time to time, something has to
happen in order to free you, so you shouldn’t be surprised if, at a certain
moment in time, instead of being afraid of change, you desire it with all your
heart.

If there are some things that hinder you from going on, here
are some tips to help you move forward: Just think of the positive impact
results that can occur during these circumstances. Know how important they are
and reflect on how to increase them, by adding some other good aspects, which
need certain assistance.

Try to picture somebody else in your situation, as picturing
ourselves in a less desirable position, always looks more dramatic than it
really is. If you realize that the other person can handle the change, you can
be sure you’ll be able to handle it as well. Think of the worst situation that
can result after the self-improvement. Try to find various solutions to it.
Reflect on how much you can lose, if the worst happened, and how important
those things are to you. If you find more than one reasonable solution, you are
safe and the self-improvement can’t be stronger than you are!

Self-improvement is not bad at all. All we need is to learn
how to handle some negative changes. We should also reflect from it to learn
and use it in the future events that we may encounter.

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Enjoy Life

Can you remember your childhood days? During those times, nothing yet
seemed complicated – all we had to think about were crayons, cookies, or Santa
Claus. We didn’t care about the things we didn’t know because we were just too
oblivious of the things that might bother us.

But as we grow older, we get anxious with the things that surround us
– life and death, loving and parting, success and failure, etc. We find that
almost everyday, we are obliged to be concerned about people or events.

Nevertheless, always keep this in mind: Don’t take things as if they
are responsible for the way you feel. How you look at them does.

If you miss those carefree days, you just have to look back at how you
used to view things then, and you will know what to do now.

  • Cherish the simple things:
  • Trust in the power of a smile or laughter, a kiss or a hug.
  • Believe in kindness, honesty, dreams, and imagination.
  • Living positively is the first step to becoming happy.

Loosen up. Laugh at your mistakes. You might remember the
time when you were delivering your speech and your mind went completely blank
right in the middle of delivering it. It’s embarrassing. But most likely, your
audience will forget about it in a day or two. We all mess up occasionally. The
good thing is that people tend to forget such situations.

Surround yourself with what you love. Get a dog.
Keep away from those that drag you down. If that high-paying job makes you sulk
at the thought of having to go to work, find a job you like first before
quitting. If some people force you to comply even if you think of doing
otherwise, stay away from their company.

Don’t put off. Go on that trip. Take your Master’s. You’ll
never know the extent of your life. Do something, while you can.

Don’t push yourself too hard trying to please everyone. It
never seems to be worth it anyway. When you want to make somebody’s day, start
with your loved ones.

Keep fit. Be that attractive person you always picture
yourself to be. Cherish your health. It’s the best way of showing you are
putting your best face forward.

Do not assume. Don’t fret about forgetting your speech before
you actually do it. Don’t worry about not getting the job you want because you
might mess up at the interview. It’s good to expect the worst; but don’t end up
expecting only the worst.

Alter your way of thinking. When you’re being
ridiculed, criticized about your family background, or condemned for past
mistakes, put on deaf ears. Don’t believe everything you hear. You know
yourself better than everybody else does. Never wallow in self-pity.

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Remember: Don’t get upset over things just because it’s how most
people would react when faced with the same situation. When you find yourself
being negative – angry, down, jealous, etc. – you also unknowingly drain your
energy and enthusiasm. You just have to try keeping these negative feelings on
the low, because giving in to these emotions would sometimes make you
unreasonable, and you might end up making bad decisions. Happiness is always in your grasp. You can attain it, as long as you
know how..

You Are Worth It!

Do you sometimes feel like you are a work in progress? Do you feel the drive to keep improving yourself and then find yourself in despair because you just never feel like you measure up? For many people, this is their reality.

All of us need to find freedom from the cycle that we are imperfect .While we all have room to grow and develop; the reality about ourselves is that we need to absorb and accept is that we are a unique and beautiful human being. There is no one quite like us on this earth and there never will be. Once we accept this for ourselves, we can then look for ways to make the good in us better. Without this perspective, we will constantly strive to find some self-acceptance and won’t move much beyond this point in our life.

An old African proverb reminds us that if there’s no enemy within, then the enemy outside can do us no harm. Have you noticed when things are going well on the inside and you are feeling secure and happy with life, things that go wrong in your life don’t seem to be so bad, but when you are feeling bad about yourself, things are so different. The world seems to take on a much darker feeling and it’s more difficult to cope when things are not going right?

Learning to love yourself and to appreciate the uniqueness you are is often the first stage of learning how to control your weight, feel confident in studying or changing careers, or learning a new hobby. Many of the things we procrastinate over that are for our own benefit and enrichment are often the things we don’t do, because perhaps deep inside we don’t think we are good enough or worthy enough to do these things for ourselves.

Challenge those thoughts and starting today. Choose one thing you want to do for you. — Because guess what, you are worth it! Most people have to battle the self-talk and rarely say anything nice about themselves. Try looking in the mirror when you wake up and tell your reflection what you would tell your best friend… You are worth it!

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Life is About Choices and Decisions We Make

Life is like a road. There are long and short roads; smooth and rocky roads; crooked and straight paths. In our life many roads would come our way as we journey through life. There are roads that lead to a life of singleness, marriage, and religious beliefs. There are also roads that lead to fame and fortune on one hand, or isolation and poverty on the other. There are roads to happiness as there are roads to sadness, roads towards victory and jubilation, and roads leading to defeat and disappointment.

Just like any road, there are corners, detours, and crossroads in life. Perhaps the most perplexing road that you would encounter is a crossroad. With four roads to choose from and with limited knowledge on where they would go, which road will you take? What is the guarantee that we would choose the right one along the way? Would you take any road, or just stay where you are: in front of a crossroad?

There are no guarantees.

You don’t really know where a road will lead you until you take it. This is one of the most important things you need to realize about life. Nobody said that choosing to do the right thing all the time would always lead you to happiness. Loving someone with all your heart does not guarantee that it would be returned. Gaining fame and fortune does not guarantee happiness. Accepting a good word from an influential superior to cut your trip short up the career ladder is not always bad, especially if you are highly qualified and competent. There are too many possible outcomes, which your really cannot control. The only thing you have power over is the decisions that you will make, and how you would act and react to different situations.

Wrong decisions are always at hindsight.

Had you known that you were making a wrong decision, would you have gone along with it? Perhaps not, why would you choose a certain path when you know it would get you lost? Why make a certain decision if you knew from the very beginning that it is not the right one. It is only after you have made a decision and reflected on it that you realize its soundness. If the consequences or outcomes are good for you, then you have decided correctly. Otherwise, your decision was wrong.

Take the risk: decide.

Since life offers no guarantee and you would never know that your decision would be wrong until you have made it, then you might as well take the risk and decide. It is definitely better than keeping yourself in limbo. Although it is true that one wrong turn could get you lost, it could also be that such a turn could be an opportunity for an adventure, moreover open more roads. It is all a matter of perspective. You have the choice between being a lost traveler or an accidental tourist of life. But take caution that you do not make decisions haphazardly. Taking risks is not about being careless and stupid.

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Get as many information as you can about your situation.

You cannot find the confidence to decide when you know so little about what you are faced with. Just like any news reporter, ask the 5 W’s: what, who, when, where, and why. What is the situation? Who are the people involved? When did this happen? Where is this leading? Why are you in this situation? These are just some of the possible questions to ask to know more about your situation. This is important. Oftentimes, the reason for indecision is the lack of information about a situation.

Identify and create options.

What options will the situation give you? Sometimes the options are few, but sometimes they are numerous. But what do you do when you think that the situation offers no options? This is the time that you create your own. Make your creative mind work. From the most simplistic to the most complicated, entertain all ideas. Do not shoot anything down when an idea comes to your head. Sometimes the most outrageous idea could prove to be the right one in the end. You can ask a friend to help you identify options and even make more options if you encounter some difficulty, but make sure that you make the decision yourself in the end.

Weigh the pros and cons of every option.

Assess each option by looking at the advantages and disadvantages it offers you. In this way, you get more insights about the consequences of such an option.

Trust yourself and make that decision.

Now that you have assessed your options, it is now time to trust yourself. Remember that there are no guarantees and wrong decisions are always at hindsight. So choose… decide… believe that you are choosing the best option at this point in time.

Now that you have made a decision, be ready to face its consequences: good and bad. It may take you to a place of promise or to a land of problems. But the important thing is that you have chosen to live your life instead of remaining a bystander or a passive audience to your own life. Whether it is the right decision or not, only time can tell. But do not regret it whatever the outcome. Instead, learn from it and remember that you always have the chance to make better decisions in the future.

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