Life is About Choices and Decisions We Make

Life is like a road. There are long and short roads; smooth and rocky roads; crooked and straight paths. In our life many roads would come our way as we journey through life. There are roads that lead to a life of singleness, marriage, and religious beliefs. There are also roads that lead to fame and fortune on one hand, or isolation and poverty on the other. There are roads to happiness as there are roads to sadness, roads towards victory and jubilation, and roads leading to defeat and disappointment.

Just like any road, there are corners, detours, and crossroads in life. Perhaps the most perplexing road that you would encounter is a crossroad. With four roads to choose from and with limited knowledge on where they would go, which road will you take? What is the guarantee that we would choose the right one along the way? Would you take any road, or just stay where you are: in front of a crossroad?

There are no guarantees.

You don’t really know where a road will lead you until you take it. This is one of the most important things you need to realize about life. Nobody said that choosing to do the right thing all the time would always lead you to happiness. Loving someone with all your heart does not guarantee that it would be returned. Gaining fame and fortune does not guarantee happiness. Accepting a good word from an influential superior to cut your trip short up the career ladder is not always bad, especially if you are highly qualified and competent. There are too many possible outcomes, which your really cannot control. The only thing you have power over is the decisions that you will make, and how you would act and react to different situations.

Wrong decisions are always at hindsight.

Had you known that you were making a wrong decision, would you have gone along with it? Perhaps not, why would you choose a certain path when you know it would get you lost? Why make a certain decision if you knew from the very beginning that it is not the right one. It is only after you have made a decision and reflected on it that you realize its soundness. If the consequences or outcomes are good for you, then you have decided correctly. Otherwise, your decision was wrong.

Take the risk: decide.

Since life offers no guarantee and you would never know that your decision would be wrong until you have made it, then you might as well take the risk and decide. It is definitely better than keeping yourself in limbo. Although it is true that one wrong turn could get you lost, it could also be that such a turn could be an opportunity for an adventure, moreover open more roads. It is all a matter of perspective. You have the choice between being a lost traveler or an accidental tourist of life. But take caution that you do not make decisions haphazardly. Taking risks is not about being careless and stupid.

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Get as many information as you can about your situation.

You cannot find the confidence to decide when you know so little about what you are faced with. Just like any news reporter, ask the 5 W’s: what, who, when, where, and why. What is the situation? Who are the people involved? When did this happen? Where is this leading? Why are you in this situation? These are just some of the possible questions to ask to know more about your situation. This is important. Oftentimes, the reason for indecision is the lack of information about a situation.

Identify and create options.

What options will the situation give you? Sometimes the options are few, but sometimes they are numerous. But what do you do when you think that the situation offers no options? This is the time that you create your own. Make your creative mind work. From the most simplistic to the most complicated, entertain all ideas. Do not shoot anything down when an idea comes to your head. Sometimes the most outrageous idea could prove to be the right one in the end. You can ask a friend to help you identify options and even make more options if you encounter some difficulty, but make sure that you make the decision yourself in the end.

Weigh the pros and cons of every option.

Assess each option by looking at the advantages and disadvantages it offers you. In this way, you get more insights about the consequences of such an option.

Trust yourself and make that decision.

Now that you have assessed your options, it is now time to trust yourself. Remember that there are no guarantees and wrong decisions are always at hindsight. So choose… decide… believe that you are choosing the best option at this point in time.

Now that you have made a decision, be ready to face its consequences: good and bad. It may take you to a place of promise or to a land of problems. But the important thing is that you have chosen to live your life instead of remaining a bystander or a passive audience to your own life. Whether it is the right decision or not, only time can tell. But do not regret it whatever the outcome. Instead, learn from it and remember that you always have the chance to make better decisions in the future.

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There is no time like now

Most people in our culture today are so busy running around
trying to arrange their lives to be somewhere else. We all want to be somewhere
else geographically or financially or in our relationships. We want to be
anywhere but here as we’ve been led to believe that if only we can be somewhere
else then our lives would work. This escapism acts like a drug that only gives
temporary relief to a chronic problem.

Apart from wanting to be somewhere else, most people today
also live by a philosophy of “someday” that allows them to manipulate
time. “I can do it, but just not today. I’ll do it when…” and they
use these excuses to stay in their comfort zones. The problem is that both
someday and somewhere are undefined and illusionary. Somewhere does not exist
and someday never comes, although you keep hoping that it does. This can be
very disempowering and is responsible for a lot of disappointment and
frustration for a lot of people.

The truth, however, is that right now is all you’ve really
got. Tomorrow is never promised to you and learning to fully live in and for
the moment is a vital distinction to make in creating a great life. Being grateful
does not mean that you lose your drive or purpose, but allows you to slow down
and really enjoy the ride. Not only is it healthy to want more from life, but
it is also required to be truly fulfilled and knowing where you are is critical
in getting where you want to be. Using someday as an excuse to soften your
problems will not create long term success and fulfillment. Be honest with
yourself and stop making excuses only to make you feel better. A little pain
can be very useful as it will at least move you to action. There is always
something you can do right now to turn your ideas into reality. There is always
one small step you can take.

It is important to realize that the purpose of pursuing a
goal or a dream is not just in achieving it but even more so in the experience
of achieving it. You do not travel for the purpose of reaching a destination
but for the purpose of traveling. Whatever dream or goal you are pursuing you
will probably spend more time in pursuit of it than actually achieving it and
most goals are an anti climax when you actually achieve them anyway. The
process is where the true fulfillment comes from and the actual experience is
what makes you become something instead of accumulating something. If you can’t
be happy and grateful without your goal then changes are that you won’t be
happy and grateful with it.

Live in the present, but know where you are going. Be right
here and celebrate and capture the magical moments of your life. Hold on to
them as the treasures you get to take with you into your magnificent future.
Life is not just lived in the moment but also created in the moment. Now is the
best time to design the next ten years of your life. Let your thoughts and
knowledge serve you through action.  Action
is what eventually determines you destiny. Move confidently in the direction of
your choosing and don’t get seduced by the popular belief that someday things
will come your way or someday your luck will change. You are the source and the
creator of your own prosperity and it all starts with a sense of immense
gratitude for everything you already have exactly where you are right now. One
of the greatest privileges you have in life is that you can start right now
with exactly what you’ve got to create anything you desire as the ultimate resources
to life are within you.

True happiness and gratitude never relies on external conditions
but is purely determined by your evaluation of where you are now. Now contains
the seed of the rest of your life. Plant it with joy and water it with
gratitude and rejoice in your life for you are its creator.

de. Not only is it healthy to want more from life, but
it is also required to be truly fulfilled and knowing where you are is critical
in getting where you want to be. Using someday as an excuse to soften your
problems will not create long term success and fulfillment. Be honest with
yourself and stop making excuses only to make you feel better. A little pain
can be very useful as it will at least move you to action. There is always
something you can do right now to turn your ideas into reality. There is always
one small step you can take.

It is important to realize that the purpose of pursuing a
goal or a dream is not just in achieving it but even more so in the experience
of achieving it. You do not travel for the purpose of reaching a destination
but for the purpose of traveling. Whatever dream or goal you are pursuing you
will probably spend more time in pursuit of it than actually achieving it and
most goals are an anti climax when you actually achieve them anyway. The
process is where the true fulfillment comes from and the actual experience is
what makes you become something instead of accumulating something. If you can’t
be happy and grateful without your goal then changes are that you won’t be
happy and grateful with it.

Thank you for reading! Follow me:

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