IMPOSSIBLE???

Everyone, at some point of his or her life, has dreamed of
being somebody special, somebody big. Often, we dream big dreams and have great
aspirations. Unfortunately, our dreams remain just that – dreams. And our
aspirations easily collect dust in our attic. This is a sad turn of events in
our life. Instead of experiencing exciting adventures in self actualization, we
get caught up in the humdrum of living from day-to-day just barely existing. But
you know what? Life could be so much better, if only we learned to aim higher.

The most common problem to setting goals is the word
impossible. Most people get hung up thinking I can’t do this. It’s too hard.
It’s too impossible. No one can do this. However, if everyone thought that,
there would be no inventions, no innovations, and no breakthroughs in human
accomplishment. On the other hand, some people suffer from dreaming totally
outrageous dreams and not acting on them. The result? Broken dreams, and shattered
aspirations.

If you limit yourself with self-doubt, and self-limiting
assumptions, you will never be able to break past what you deem impossible. If
you reach too far out into the sky without working towards your goal, you will
find yourself clinging on to the impossible dream.

What Should You Do?

Try this exercise. Take a piece of paper and write down some
goals in your life. Under one header, list down things ‘you know you can do’.
Under another header, write the things ‘you might be able to do.’ And under one
more, list the things that that are ‘impossible for you to do.’

Now look at all the headers strive every day to accomplish
the goals that are under things ‘you know you can do’. Check them when you are
able to accomplish them. As you slowly are able to check all of your goals
under that heading, try accomplishing the goals under the other header-the one
that reads ‘you might be able to do.’ As of the items you wrote under things I
could do are accomplished, you can move the goals that are under things that
are ‘impossible for you to do’ to the list of things ‘you might be able to do.’
As you iterate through this process, you will find out that the goals you
thought were impossible become easier to accomplish. And the impossible begin
to seem possible after all.

Now What?

You see, the technique here is not to limit your
imagination. It is to aim high, and start working towards that goal little by
little. However, it also is unwise to set a goal that is truly unrealistic. For
one to accomplish his or her dreams, there has to be hard work and discipline.
But take note that that 1% has to be a think-big dream, and not some easily
accomplished one.

Don’t get caught up with your perceived limitations. Think
big and work hard to attain those dreams. As you step up the ladder of
progress, you will just about find out that the impossible has just become a
little bit more possible.

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You Are Worth It!

Do you sometimes feel like you are a work in progress? Do you feel the drive to keep improving yourself and then find yourself in despair because you just never feel like you measure up? For many people, this is their reality.

All of us need to find freedom from the cycle that we are imperfect .While we all have room to grow and develop; the reality about ourselves is that we need to absorb and accept is that we are a unique and beautiful human being. There is no one quite like us on this earth and there never will be. Once we accept this for ourselves, we can then look for ways to make the good in us better. Without this perspective, we will constantly strive to find some self-acceptance and won’t move much beyond this point in our life.

An old African proverb reminds us that if there’s no enemy within, then the enemy outside can do us no harm. Have you noticed when things are going well on the inside and you are feeling secure and happy with life, things that go wrong in your life don’t seem to be so bad, but when you are feeling bad about yourself, things are so different. The world seems to take on a much darker feeling and it’s more difficult to cope when things are not going right?

Learning to love yourself and to appreciate the uniqueness you are is often the first stage of learning how to control your weight, feel confident in studying or changing careers, or learning a new hobby. Many of the things we procrastinate over that are for our own benefit and enrichment are often the things we don’t do, because perhaps deep inside we don’t think we are good enough or worthy enough to do these things for ourselves.

Challenge those thoughts and starting today. Choose one thing you want to do for you. — Because guess what, you are worth it! Most people have to battle the self-talk and rarely say anything nice about themselves. Try looking in the mirror when you wake up and tell your reflection what you would tell your best friend… You are worth it!

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There is no time like now

Most people in our culture today are so busy running around
trying to arrange their lives to be somewhere else. We all want to be somewhere
else geographically or financially or in our relationships. We want to be
anywhere but here as we’ve been led to believe that if only we can be somewhere
else then our lives would work. This escapism acts like a drug that only gives
temporary relief to a chronic problem.

Apart from wanting to be somewhere else, most people today
also live by a philosophy of “someday” that allows them to manipulate
time. “I can do it, but just not today. I’ll do it when…” and they
use these excuses to stay in their comfort zones. The problem is that both
someday and somewhere are undefined and illusionary. Somewhere does not exist
and someday never comes, although you keep hoping that it does. This can be
very disempowering and is responsible for a lot of disappointment and
frustration for a lot of people.

The truth, however, is that right now is all you’ve really
got. Tomorrow is never promised to you and learning to fully live in and for
the moment is a vital distinction to make in creating a great life. Being grateful
does not mean that you lose your drive or purpose, but allows you to slow down
and really enjoy the ride. Not only is it healthy to want more from life, but
it is also required to be truly fulfilled and knowing where you are is critical
in getting where you want to be. Using someday as an excuse to soften your
problems will not create long term success and fulfillment. Be honest with
yourself and stop making excuses only to make you feel better. A little pain
can be very useful as it will at least move you to action. There is always
something you can do right now to turn your ideas into reality. There is always
one small step you can take.

It is important to realize that the purpose of pursuing a
goal or a dream is not just in achieving it but even more so in the experience
of achieving it. You do not travel for the purpose of reaching a destination
but for the purpose of traveling. Whatever dream or goal you are pursuing you
will probably spend more time in pursuit of it than actually achieving it and
most goals are an anti climax when you actually achieve them anyway. The
process is where the true fulfillment comes from and the actual experience is
what makes you become something instead of accumulating something. If you can’t
be happy and grateful without your goal then changes are that you won’t be
happy and grateful with it.

Live in the present, but know where you are going. Be right
here and celebrate and capture the magical moments of your life. Hold on to
them as the treasures you get to take with you into your magnificent future.
Life is not just lived in the moment but also created in the moment. Now is the
best time to design the next ten years of your life. Let your thoughts and
knowledge serve you through action.  Action
is what eventually determines you destiny. Move confidently in the direction of
your choosing and don’t get seduced by the popular belief that someday things
will come your way or someday your luck will change. You are the source and the
creator of your own prosperity and it all starts with a sense of immense
gratitude for everything you already have exactly where you are right now. One
of the greatest privileges you have in life is that you can start right now
with exactly what you’ve got to create anything you desire as the ultimate resources
to life are within you.

True happiness and gratitude never relies on external conditions
but is purely determined by your evaluation of where you are now. Now contains
the seed of the rest of your life. Plant it with joy and water it with
gratitude and rejoice in your life for you are its creator.

de. Not only is it healthy to want more from life, but
it is also required to be truly fulfilled and knowing where you are is critical
in getting where you want to be. Using someday as an excuse to soften your
problems will not create long term success and fulfillment. Be honest with
yourself and stop making excuses only to make you feel better. A little pain
can be very useful as it will at least move you to action. There is always
something you can do right now to turn your ideas into reality. There is always
one small step you can take.

It is important to realize that the purpose of pursuing a
goal or a dream is not just in achieving it but even more so in the experience
of achieving it. You do not travel for the purpose of reaching a destination
but for the purpose of traveling. Whatever dream or goal you are pursuing you
will probably spend more time in pursuit of it than actually achieving it and
most goals are an anti climax when you actually achieve them anyway. The
process is where the true fulfillment comes from and the actual experience is
what makes you become something instead of accumulating something. If you can’t
be happy and grateful without your goal then changes are that you won’t be
happy and grateful with it.

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The Power of Our Beliefs

The role of beliefs in our lives is often overlooked. We see the effects of these beliefs all around us and focus on those, but we neglect to look for the root, to find the beliefs that generate the world around us. Believe it or not, the world around you is generated from your beliefs.

Beliefs are the single most powerful force in the human universe. They are responsible for 99% of what you experience in your life. They generate thoughts, behaviors, feelings, and these in turn generate social customs, political action, and, even, architectural design. Look around and everything you see is there because of one belief or another.

Everything you do, think, and feel is because you believe something about the experiences in your life. Most beliefs are unconscious, and therein lies the rub. Because beliefs are responsible for such a huge percentage of our experience, it’s a good idea to hold beliefs that are more useful than harmful. But because they are mostly unconscious, it’s hard to even know what they are, let alone change them to something more helpful. They are very much like an iceberg, and we can see only a small percentage of them. The rest lays submerged in our unconscious.

Human beings are creatures of habit. We develop routines, and then forget about them, happy to allow them to run on automatic pilot. And this can be of great service, but it can also be a hindrance when we want something in our lives to change. More often than not, it’s an unconscious belief that prevents people from realizing the change they wish to make in their lives. The overweight man breaks his diet after a week, because he’s not aware that he believes that eating makes him feel safe. The smoker sneaks a cigarette, because she’s unaware that she believes smoking relaxes her. The workaholic stays up late on the weekend, pouring over his documents even though he promised his wife he’d leave it alone, because he doesn’t realize that he believes ‘a real man always works hard,’ and he desperately wants to be a real man.

Whatever the case, whatever the habit or the desired change, chances are there’s a belief that’s generating the unwanted behavior. And the only way to make a lasting change is to change the belief. Anything less is superficial.

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